RESPECT
I started blogging in 2005.
Here is one of my first articles:
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Years ago I heard about a master who decided to have his slave crawl into the local leather bar behind him on a leash. As they entered the room, someone bent over and gave the slave a swat on his ass. The man immediately stood up, and hit the offender, then got back down on all fours and proceeded to follow his master. (The slave had been told to defend himself, when necessary).
I don’t know if that’s a true story, however there is truth in it. The following story actually happened: I was attending a party as a collared slave and was in the men’s restroom. For some reason there were no paper towels and some guy asked me if he could wipe his hands on my shirt. Fortunately I had been trained enough to know how to respond: I told him he would have to ask my master. I didn’t see the guy again.
Women have to deal with sexual harassment even more than men and this can seem more complicated with a leather lifestyle. Some people use dominance as an excuse for touching and talking to others in ways that are offensive and invasive. Those dominants who are truly respected in our community are those who treat others with true respect.
Less experienced people sometimes do not realize that the roles we play with each other do not necessarily extend to them as well. In other words, submissives choose to whom they will surrender, and to whom they will not. Yes, there are slaves who are deferential to everyone, but this is usually because of an understanding between them and their masters. Instead of treating all slaves as inferior, it may be better to consider them as willing volunteers who wish to honor those whom they serve.
Submissives can sometimes have similar challenges. For years I was incredibly nervous whenever I was in the presence of dominants, even though they really had no power over me. The lines between imagination and reality can blur, especially when there’s a lot of leather nearby!
There was one particular dominant I really wanted to know better, but I could never think of anything more profound than “Yes, Ma’am”, which was very frustrating. Finally one evening I decided not to worry about it anymore; instead I would just relate to her as normal person. We enjoyed a delightful conversation!
Most Americans want to be treated with respect no matter what our social, spiritual, economic, or political preferences are. This is also true within the leather community. Regardless of our lifestyle, whether we choose to enjoy some stylized form of high protocol with people we know or whether we prefer to socialize in more informal ways, we have all made consensual choices, and deserve to be equally respected for our courage, our strength, and our powerful passions!
Here is one of my first articles:
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Years ago I heard about a master who decided to have his slave crawl into the local leather bar behind him on a leash. As they entered the room, someone bent over and gave the slave a swat on his ass. The man immediately stood up, and hit the offender, then got back down on all fours and proceeded to follow his master. (The slave had been told to defend himself, when necessary).
I don’t know if that’s a true story, however there is truth in it. The following story actually happened: I was attending a party as a collared slave and was in the men’s restroom. For some reason there were no paper towels and some guy asked me if he could wipe his hands on my shirt. Fortunately I had been trained enough to know how to respond: I told him he would have to ask my master. I didn’t see the guy again.
Women have to deal with sexual harassment even more than men and this can seem more complicated with a leather lifestyle. Some people use dominance as an excuse for touching and talking to others in ways that are offensive and invasive. Those dominants who are truly respected in our community are those who treat others with true respect.
Less experienced people sometimes do not realize that the roles we play with each other do not necessarily extend to them as well. In other words, submissives choose to whom they will surrender, and to whom they will not. Yes, there are slaves who are deferential to everyone, but this is usually because of an understanding between them and their masters. Instead of treating all slaves as inferior, it may be better to consider them as willing volunteers who wish to honor those whom they serve.
Submissives can sometimes have similar challenges. For years I was incredibly nervous whenever I was in the presence of dominants, even though they really had no power over me. The lines between imagination and reality can blur, especially when there’s a lot of leather nearby!
There was one particular dominant I really wanted to know better, but I could never think of anything more profound than “Yes, Ma’am”, which was very frustrating. Finally one evening I decided not to worry about it anymore; instead I would just relate to her as normal person. We enjoyed a delightful conversation!
Most Americans want to be treated with respect no matter what our social, spiritual, economic, or political preferences are. This is also true within the leather community. Regardless of our lifestyle, whether we choose to enjoy some stylized form of high protocol with people we know or whether we prefer to socialize in more informal ways, we have all made consensual choices, and deserve to be equally respected for our courage, our strength, and our powerful passions!
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